Forgiveness

I have this awesome discussion in communication class today, and i would really wanted to share. It is about ...

"Have you ever fell in a serious conflict with somebody that hurt you so bad, you never thought of FORGIVING?"

Personally YES , i am in a conflict with someone very close to me. The conflict was so serious , it hurts the feelings of me and the people i care. I never thought of forgiving that person , because his/her action make such great impact to my world. It has aways been a sealed secret since the day we fought, until today i undergo a discussion about the topic "Forgiveness" and recall the feeling of the pain. It was emotional for me to share my story because the pain reappear,due to my conflict was never resolved . I always try to avoid mentioning about the conflict but avoiding will never make me feel better on the fact that the problem is still there and the pain will never go. But i just cant find a reason to forgive that person, furthermore the person is never aware of he/she was wrong.

Luckily i received a hand out of the 4 steps towards forgiveness. 

Step 1 - filled with justified anger - You are so angry that you are convinced that it would not be right to forgive

Step 2 - After feeling angry with someone for a while you realize it's not good for you. You take the steps to forgive.

Step 3 - You have realized that its beneficial to forgive and you decided to forgive quicker than before because you have practice with it.

Step 4 - proactive choice. Emerges with thoughts like "I don't want to waste my life in the discomfort caused by anger".

Do you find these steps related to you ? Yes the steps are very helpful and you know FORGIVING is the right thing to do. But still saying it is much easier then done. 

Towards my own opinion, I find these steps are related to the conflict i'm having so i decided to do alittle communicating with the person im having conflict with and leave the rest to the clock to do its job to slowly let me forgive that person. 

So yea , I hope these few steps will help the people who are currently facing a really serious conflict like me in life. We should really forgive them , because it will make our lives more happier. If you haven't find the reason to forgive , maybe you can consider putting it as it your trying to make yourself feel better therefore you let go of the pass and forgive. I know its hard , because i'm in the same situation too but take it slow.. time will be our best choice for the moment. 

anyway i got to go study my philosophy exam for tomorrow. Wish me luck !