Forgiveness

I have this awesome discussion in communication class today, and i would really wanted to share. It is about ...

"Have you ever fell in a serious conflict with somebody that hurt you so bad, you never thought of FORGIVING?"

Personally YES , i am in a conflict with someone very close to me. The conflict was so serious , it hurts the feelings of me and the people i care. I never thought of forgiving that person , because his/her action make such great impact to my world. It has aways been a sealed secret since the day we fought, until today i undergo a discussion about the topic "Forgiveness" and recall the feeling of the pain. It was emotional for me to share my story because the pain reappear,due to my conflict was never resolved . I always try to avoid mentioning about the conflict but avoiding will never make me feel better on the fact that the problem is still there and the pain will never go. But i just cant find a reason to forgive that person, furthermore the person is never aware of he/she was wrong.

Luckily i received a hand out of the 4 steps towards forgiveness. 

Step 1 - filled with justified anger - You are so angry that you are convinced that it would not be right to forgive

Step 2 - After feeling angry with someone for a while you realize it's not good for you. You take the steps to forgive.

Step 3 - You have realized that its beneficial to forgive and you decided to forgive quicker than before because you have practice with it.

Step 4 - proactive choice. Emerges with thoughts like "I don't want to waste my life in the discomfort caused by anger".

Do you find these steps related to you ? Yes the steps are very helpful and you know FORGIVING is the right thing to do. But still saying it is much easier then done. 

Towards my own opinion, I find these steps are related to the conflict i'm having so i decided to do alittle communicating with the person im having conflict with and leave the rest to the clock to do its job to slowly let me forgive that person. 

So yea , I hope these few steps will help the people who are currently facing a really serious conflict like me in life. We should really forgive them , because it will make our lives more happier. If you haven't find the reason to forgive , maybe you can consider putting it as it your trying to make yourself feel better therefore you let go of the pass and forgive. I know its hard , because i'm in the same situation too but take it slow.. time will be our best choice for the moment. 

anyway i got to go study my philosophy exam for tomorrow. Wish me luck ! 

Reconnect with Boys in ACTION

Guess what's on Saturday ? The UEFA Champions League Final match in London Wembley! After lost touch with soccer for so long , finally i got myself back on track with the final game today.

So i have a friend , also an international student but his from Korea . He texted me early in the morning saying ..

Phil : hey ariel do you love to watch football game?

Me : yea , but i have lost touch with soccer for so long since coming to canada.. anyway why ?

Phil : U know today there is a final match of Europe Champs between MU and Barcelona at 11.45. Do you have a plan to watch this?

Me : sure , i will watch the game . thanks for informing me.

Phil : so where and who are you watching it with ?

Me : i might watch at home as i dont have much friends in canada to go out and watch with plus people here are not really interested in soccer game .. most of them are CANUCKS FANS.

SO , at the end .. phil decided to come over to my place for the game as we are both new in town and we don't know much friends that watch soccer . *observation from school , everyone is into hockey ..

if your wondering WHO THE HELL IN THE WORLD DOESNT WATCH SOCCER ?! well... thats because its playoff season in canada .. and people here are very supportive to their local hockey team which is the "CANUCKS" , the only thing i know about ice hockey in canada is it started from 1924.

The local team "CANUCKS" from vancouver BC scored the winning goal at the last 14 seconds of the game got their one way ticket to the "stanley cup finals" which they havent have made it for the last 17years! Sooooo towards the locals ITS A VERY BIG DEAL they got into the finals . To show you how locals support the CANUCKS team theres a video below (Canucks sleeves like those are c$120++ = RM360! from what i've heard)

Anyway about the soccer game , my prediction came true BARCELONA WON THE GAME !!!

whaoooo !

Ugly weather in vancouver

I cant believe that it is spring in vancouver but it always rain during school day (monday to Thursday). Check out the picture at your left and you will know how miserable it is to always walk and take transit to school.

Try visualizing , your walking out of your house with dry clothes and its POURING , along the way your walking you come across a few BREEZE . (This really kills when your from malaysia where is sunny everyday) until you stop walking and started waiting for the bus where the rain and the breeze combine it will a burden .

This is how it works in canada , everyone walks and take transit to school. You cannot understand how much i miss driving my blue little land rover . :((

BUT

Thanks to the pouring rain i realize i actually got this song in my Iphone. The lyrics grabbed my attention , sooo i here by introducing this NOT QUITE NEW SONG to you readers . The song "I love the rain - Claude Kelly" is actually out since 2009 , like they always say 'It is never late for something really good'

The lyric goes like "oh baby let the rain fall down from heaven ,let it wash away every memory of you and i , cause i dont want your love no more" .

Intro to blog world

Hi , I'm Ariel .

I have took the advise from my brother on sharing my new life in canada.

Im a fresh graduate from high school and traveled half way around the world (Malaysia - Canada) to pursue my dreams in work in the Public Relation industry in the future.

The reason i decided to open up a blog is because i have a lot voice to share but no where to , canada is a whole new start and my close friends and family are back home. In order to list my own memories and express my feelings blog is really a great place to start.

I've touch down in canada at the 26th of April , not more then a month i realize coming to canada change my thoughts towards a lot of manner in my life. It's quite hard to start accepting changes at an age of 18 , but that not consider as a reason for pulling me back. I have set some goals and i wish to succeed in everyone of them. I trust there are times that it might pull me down , but i will find my way to motivate myself and get back on track . I LIKE THE FEELING OF SUCCESS , these simple words is enough to shake my laziness away from me.